Turn Your Negative Thoughts into Positive Ones!

The primary reason many people don't enjoy lasting personal change is because they don't understand how the brain functions. Any change that is intended to be permanent must work in tandem with the functions of our unconscious mind and our brain.

"Programming," or "self-talk," is what you say to yourself when you talk to yourself. It's also what you accept from yourself based upon what others say about you. Who you are is based on what you have learned to believe from your parents, peers, family, church, and environment.

Whether you are programmed for optimum performance, success and happiness, or failure, your unconscious mind cares not, it operates according to the programming you feed it. It doesn't even matter to your unconscious mind if what you program is untrue.

If you believe something, it becomes your truth, and it becomes a part of your self-image. To change the circumstances of your life, you must change what you are consistently programming your mind with. If you are now smoking and your self-image is centered on being a smoker, and if you believe, as you've been led to believe, that it is very hard to stop smoking, then you will manifest your inability to stop smoking. For us to have positive feelings about ourselves, we must first have positive attitudes. So, if you are a smoker who really wants to stop smoking and believes that it is easy for you to do so, and you truly believe this, your unconscious mind will act in ways that will enable you to become a non-smoker.

Your attitudes are your reality of the world, and they serve as a filter through which you create your feelings. All your actions are determined by your feelings. If you don't like broccoli, your thoughts have nothing to do with the fact that broccoli is healthy for you; they have to do with how you feel about broccoli. Feelings determine your motivational level, and they determine what you will or will not do. Obviously, positive feelings create positive actions, and negative feelings create negative actions.

When you make a conscious decision to improve your self-talk, you maintain your discipline and remain persistent. It's imperative to avoid letting your old programming interfere with the new programming you're installing. Your current thinking patterns have become habits by entering into their own little "comfort zone." Old thought patterns will attempt to defeat and negate all new thought patterns (this is why it's so hard to break a bad habit). As Buddha said, "First we create our habits, and then our habits will create us."

When you try new things, like new self-talk, you have to break your new self-talk in, like a pair of new shoes, or a baseball glove. Once you use your new self-talk often enough, it becomes habit. Then, you need to assert your new reality, otherwise, your old thought patterns will again dominate your life.

In understanding how it is that we create our programming, it's also important to understand that self-talk can be categorized into four levels.

In the example of giving up smoking, your goal should be to move your primary self-talk from the first three levels into the fourth. You can substitute any behavior in the parenthesis you feel you need to improve upon:

1) Negative Acceptance..."I can't (give up smoking/lose weight/find the right relationship, etc) or I am not (giving up smoking/losing weight/finding the right relationship, etc)!"

2) Recognition Of A Need To Improve. .."I should or I need to (give up smoking/lose weight/find the right relationship, etc)."

3) Commitment To Improve..."I will, I can, (give up smoking/lose weight/find the right relationship, etc)."

4) Attainment..."I AM (a non-smoker/in shape/in the right relationship, etc)."

About the Author:

Jim Fortin is a Master Hypnotist and a Master Practitioner/Trainer of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). In addition, he is a Reiki and Karuna Ki Master Teacher and studies with a Shaman. Mr. Fortin holds degrees in Psychology and Political Science from Texas Lutheran University. He is a regular speaker, trainer and coach for Fortune 500 companies, and is author of the peak performance book, The Owner's Manual No One Gave You!, which this article is excerpted from. His clients include movie stars and top business executives.


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