Couples Healing

From time to time we get to work with two persons who are utilizing CRST in their lives that are in a couples relationship. The technique is the same as with an individual, except that two facilitators are needed, one facilitator simultaneously working with each person in the same room. This process should not be undertaken during the initial introduction to CRST, because each of the couple is still very much focused on their own personal work and much of what individuals work on is projected onto the other.

The power of this technique lies in the absolutely honest communication that is engendered when one person's subconscious mind speaks to the other's subconscious mind. The real issues, usually karmic, stemming from past lifes, are revealed and resolved, allowing the couple to react to each other in the moment, free of old karmic patterns.

Recently we worked with a couple that provided a dramatic example of this technique. The woman got to the root of an old obligation to the man that was making her relationship seem compelled. She loved him, but resented the obligatory nature of her involvement. The man revealed deep insecurities about himself that made him feel uncomfortable in the relationship. None of these insecurities were related to his spouse. They were both able to access the root cause and clear the underlying energy. Both described a profound shift that resulted in a re-evaluation of the relationship. In this case, the re-evaluation has led to a strengthening of the relationship.

It is not always the case that this technique leads to a strengthening of the relationship, if some cases, it may lead to a mutual agreement to dissolve the relationship, because it is clearly based upon karmic ties that are not beneficial to either of the couple. It often frees the couple to continue on in their developmental journey as individuals. For this reason, I often warn the couple that the outcome may be unsettling. I am confident, that the subconscious and superconscious minds of the couple will make the best choices for them as individuals, but the ego on confronting the choices, may be frightened of the impending changes. Especially any changes that affect the economic security of the couple. People are afraid that the Universe will not take care of them or most frequently that they are somehow undeserving of being cared for.

This technique is also useful in resolving work conflicts, especially when there are competing interests among the executive staff. I like to compare work settings to stage sets, organized to allow a group of people to work on their karmic dramas. The "bottom line" of profitability is seldom a true factor in the growth or failure of a business. Often, the need for the stage ceases and the business dies through a lack of interest and focus of the leading cast. It is much like "folding the tent" and moving on to a new town.

Once the realization that many conflicts in a relationship are based upon issues that are not available to the conscious mind, the need to find the truth about conflict becomes a driving force in a relationship and it is difficult to go back to the old ways of resolution that depended upon talking out the problem at the ego level. To discuss these issues at a ego level is usually fruitless. The ego just manufactures more and more inaccurate explanations of the emotions that it is experiencing. Since the ego is prone to trying to blame someone else for its discomfort, gasoline is simply poured on the flames.

It should be noted that this technique should not be undertaken by inexperienced facilitators as the depth of emotion and the need for getting quickly to the root cause requires familiarity with the process. When utiilized correctly, it is a profound experience for both the couple and the facilitators. It demonstrates how far from the underlying reality our egos are likely to take us in their quest for a rational explanation. That is not to gainsay rationality, because at the subconscioius and superconscious level, there is a consistent logic within the parameters of those domains of consciousness.

Written by James M. Price, MSW, MPA


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