Attracting Your Ideal Mate Using Visualization and Goal Boards

Visualizing what you want to create is one of the most powerful tools you can use to actually help you obtain what you want. Everything that you create is first recorded in your subconscious and expressed through your beliefs. And your beliefs mold your life good and bad. However, your beliefs can become a positive, fulfilling reality much quicker if you are able to clearly visualize the outcome.

"What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?"
- Robert Schuller

"If you can see yourself possessing your goal, it's half yours."
- Tom Hopkins

When people try to visualize, they are worried that they can't get a clear mental picture of what they are trying to create with all the mental static from day to day concerns. And the worry only leads to more worry. Some people do get crystal-clear pictures, and others get more of a feeling of what they are trying to create. When you're visualizing, if you don't get movie-clear pictures, don't stop. Keep practicing. Eventually you will get the clear pictures that you are looking for, but the important thing is to first get a feeling about what you want to create. Feelings are your direct line to your beliefs and intuition. The whole purpose of visualizing is to help you generate the feeling that you already have what you want.

In Creative Visualization, Shakti Gawain describes the four steps for creative visualization: set your goal, create a clear mental picture of the idea, focus on it often, and give it positive energy. I'd like to discuss how to apply these steps and introduce this excellent tool to refine and define your personal goals.

Step One: Set your goal

If your ultimate goal is to attract an ideal mate and create a loving environment, be firm in your convictions. But if you've had trouble in the past creating things you want, then you might want to start with something a bit smaller to help boost your confidence. Maybe you would like to pick up a new hobby, create a new job, or go on a trip. As you get better at believing and visualizing your goals, you'll be more successful at visualizing something you desire, like a relationship with an ideal mate.

Step Two: Create a clear mental picture or idea

In your mind visualize a clear mental picture of what you want to create. You need to picture this in the present tense-not future. Visualize it as if it's happening now. Let yourself feel it happening. A "goal board" will help you make it more real. You may want to start visualizing a new job, a better relationship with your family, or taking a trip. Once you start believing and visualizing your goals it'll be easier to visualize your ideal mate.

Step Three: Focus on it often

Focus on what you want several times a day. The best time to do this is in the morning and at night, when your mind is clearest and most receptive to suggestion. During the day you will look at your goal board and take a couple of moments and think of what you want to create. Think of your goal in the present, as if it's actually happening.

Step Four: Give it positive energy

When you're meditating and visualizing your goal, see it in a white light. See yourself receiving your goal. Your feeling toward it needs to be a welcoming feeling of acceptance - not anxiety, worry, or fear that you won't achieve your goal. Always think of it in a confident, loving way.

During the journey to finding your ideal mate, you'll be visualizing many things. You may be visualizing personal changes you want to make. Maybe you want to participate in a workout program, become more confident when you're meeting potential mates, or reprogram the way you think an ideal relationship would function day to day. Once you meet someone who fits your needs list of ideal mate traits, you might want to visualize the two of you spending time together, having fun in a loving relationship. You can't visualize a specific person into becoming your ideal mate, but if you're already in a potential "ideal mate" relationship you can visualize how you would like it to change. You just can't be attached to a particular outcome.

"When you are attached to a particular outcome," according to Deepak Chopra, author of The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, "it's based on fear and insecurity." Detachment is based on the unquestioning belief in the power of your true Self." In relationships, detachment from the outcome is about allowing your higher self to act on your highest good.

Visualizing allows you to see what you are trying to achieve; it therefore serves as a catalyst that allows you to feel as if you already have it. Goal boards, as I have mentioned, is a major component in expediting the manifestations of your visualizations. Cut out images from magazines, newspapers, the computer, or you can make your own drawings and words depicting certain looks or qualities in the person/relationship you desire and tape them on your board. Put your goal board in a place so you can see it often. Don't hide it. That may send a message to the universe that what you want isn't a priority. Don't forget images that you want in your life with this person. Do you want children? A particular type of home? Specific places to visit together? Open affection? Include those on your board. You may want to add things on your goal board that help your focus. These positive feelings will then funnel into your subconscious, which programs your beliefs, which in turn create the stirrings of manifestation in your outer reality. So you can see, goal boards are an excellent magical tool to help you find and attract your ideal mate.

About the Author

This article is based on excerpts from Linda Georgian's books, "Create Your Own Future" and "How to Attract Your Ideal Mate". Linda is a nationally known psychic, lecturer, and author of four books published by Simon & Schuster. She is the former co-host of the "Psychic Friends Network" with Dionne Warwick. Read more about Linda at


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